Fine line
A fine line
What happens when you put everyone before yourself, and you end up being the quiet one, the one who won't kick off, and people don't need to worry about?
You get walked over, overlooked, and forgotten about. Closed mouths don't get fed is a saying that springs to mind.
If you go the other way and tell everyone to do one, and you don't sing to anyone's tune, life can get pretty lonely, and you get typecast as the angriest man in town who doesn't care or like anyone.
Often, the first scenario breeds the second one, and if you try to correct it, you go too far.
It's about striking a balance; it's not always easy to do that, and something I struggle with.
Finding your voice when younger can be hard, but it doesn't mean you can't find it and use it later in life.
If people can't respect what hurts you or the boundaries set in place, then they only have themselves to blame when their seat at your table is replaced or removed.
Quiet independent souls want to be wanted, want to be loved and want full homes.
Just because we're not needy doesn't mean we don't want to be wanted.